Sunday, May 3, 2009

Being a Bad Parent

Sometimes, life isn't pretty.

We yell at our kids. We make rash decisions. We don't always be the best parents it is possible to be.

Sometimes, instead of parenting to be our best, we parent to survive. You do what you have to do. You may not make the best decision, but it is the one that gets you through the moment.

There are times that I like to hide out in the bathroom with a book, and let my kids watch gratuitous television. It may not be the best way to parent, but sometimes, you have to.

In reality, it doesn't make you a bad parent. It makes you a real parent. It makes you a parent who knows your limitations, and who understands that sometimes, we have to do things to survive this emotional ride we call parenting.

The important thing is to have your moment. Then, pick yourself up, and get back into it, knowing that tomorrow will be a better day. Hug your kids, tell them you love them, and then tell them that tomorrow will be a better day.

So, if you have a moment, or a day, where you need to hide in the pantry, eating oreos, while your children run around in pajamas, watching tv all day, go ahead.
Know that you are doing what you need to in order to survive, and I won't judge you. Just don't judge me when you see me with Oreo crumbs on my mouth, either. We bad parents have to stick together.


Tanyetta said...

You got OREOS????????

You best be sharing with me! :)

Just Me said...

Perfect Post. You are so correct!!!:)

Just Me said...

And can I say, my kids have a TV with cable in their I can have some piece sometimes *lol*