Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Far too Political for Me

Not my other posts.


I left school today, realizing that schools, at least some of them, are impossible to navigate as a parent if you don't want to play the game. I know that there are always the "favored ones", mostly the PTO moms, and such. Far beyond those moms, though, I am now beginning to see just how deep the brown nosing goes. If you aren't the right kind of mom, even in a dysfunctional school like the one my daughter goes to, you just can't get anywhere.

It isn't that I want to be well liked, but I would like to be able to actually help out, and make a difference. I want to be part of the solution. I want to make sure that my daughter has every chance to excel possible. Even that, though, is hard if you aren't always on your game, or in the game. Waist deep in it, too.

I see the moms who have sucked up so hard, I'm surprised they still have room to breath. I see the moms who have become the favored ones, and they are able to really be heard. The problem is that what they have to say isn't always beneficial.

I guess, when you come into a school and really want to be involved as a parent, you have two options.
1. Play Politics. Be a suck up. Do what you can to play all the games, and keep a favored status so that you are able to be involved in everything, even if you don't strive to make things better.

2. Go at it on your own. Choose to do what is right, and what stands out to you as needing to be done. Volunteer your time, and do what you can to help out, but don't expect to be allowed to be a part of many things, or even have your voice really heard. In fact, you should be prepared to make your voice as loud as necessary sometimes, in order to be heard.

The only other option that I see is just to go with the flow, and not be involved. I wish it wasn't this way. I wish that parents could just be a part of their children's lives with out all of this alpha mom nonsense. Unfortunately, it seems that when around children, parents sometimes act like them.

More than anything, I really hope that when we change schools next year, the new school is different. I want so badly to help out and be a part of things, like my mother was for me. This school makes that so hard, though. I think that before the school year starts, I need to realize, and believe, that this school has colored my vision of the school system in general, but surely not all schools are like this. There must be some schools out there that work together for the common good of the kids, and not for recognition of the parents.


Days like These! said...

I am in BIG trouble. You know I go by the beat of my own drum.